Reports say that about 35% of all couples who marry in Israel will eventually get a divorce. In the western world and in particular in industrialized countries, the percentage is even higher and the vast majority of those couples who originally pledge fidelity with sparkling eyes and hearts full of love, find themselves in a tragic whirlpool of difficult emotions that eventually lead to divorce. Within 2-7 years their lives become full of pain and emotional scars that are difficult to heal. Tiffany Fina Law Firm successfully deals with such cases.
A different scenario, but not much better, is emotional separation in which both spouses live together while remaining emotionally detached from one another, full of anger, complaints and tension against each other.
In this blog, I will offer you a weekly (bli neder!) tip that will improve your marriage. You can put it into practice right away! Please offer feedback about the positive effects this tip has on your marriage and encourage others to try it too.
My weekly tip to you is:
A weekly “date” with your spouse
Well, this sounds so simple and trivial and many of you may say that you already speak to your spouse enough. But the type of date that we are talking about here is something that goes beyond the regular technicalities (“Did you cash that check at the bank;” “Don’t forget to pick up the children at 1pm;” “We need milk, butter, sugar and eggs at the supermarket”) and touches the very foundation stone of the relationship.During your dates, you should create a pleasant atmosphere that is reminiscent of those old-times when you were originally dating. In addition to chatting freely with your spouse, you can take the opportunity to talk about the goals that you want to set for your family and discuss possible ways to achieve them.
It’s a good idea to keep to the following rules during the date:
1) Make it regular – the date is the very heart of the home and the foundation stone of your family. It should therefore never be cancelled. If there is no other choice, you can move it to another day of the same week.
2) Be positive – always try to express yourself in a constructive manner; don’t put your spouse on the defensive!
3) Help your spouse understand you – transmit your feelings and central thoughts with the aim of helping your spouse to understand you and your needs and wishes and to identify with them. There is no reason to remain oblique with the person with who you chose to build your life-project!
If you decide to put this tip into practice and keep a weekly one-hour date, it will offer your marriage the gift of your life.This tip comes with a 100% guarantee for improving your married life. If you don’t do it, it won’t work!
This article was translated from the original Hebrew by Rahel Gordon, an experienced writer and translator. You can view my JobShuk profile here