{"id":57,"date":"2008-08-27T18:31:57","date_gmt":"2008-08-27T18:31:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/jobshuk.com\/familycounseling\/2008\/08\/27\/marital-advice-tip-3-for-a-better-marriage\/"},"modified":"2008-08-27T18:31:57","modified_gmt":"2008-08-27T18:31:57","slug":"marital-advice-tip-3-for-a-better-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jobshuk.com\/familycounseling\/2008\/08\/27\/marital-advice-tip-3-for-a-better-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Marital Advice &#8211; Tip #3 for a Better Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><font face=\"comic sans ms,sand\" size=\"4\">This time, we&#8217;re talking about facing reality. We might imagine that, as long as a person isn&#8217;t suffering from a serious psychological illness, the older he gets, the easier it is for him to accept reality and deal with his problems realistically. Yet when we contemplate things, we can see that every one of us still has a lot to learn about accepting things as they are.<\/font><\/p>\n<ul type=\"disc\">\n<li><font face=\"comic sans ms,sand\" size=\"4\">How much effort, anger and frustration do you invest in expressing your dissatisfaction with your spouse&#8217;s unchangeable character traits?<\/font><\/li>\n<li><font face=\"comic sans ms,sand\" size=\"4\">How much effort, anger and frustration do you waste in thinking about your dissatisfaction with your own unchangeable character traits?<\/font><\/li>\n<li><font face=\"comic sans ms,sand\" size=\"4\">How much anger and frustration do you accumulate by denying God&#8217;s will as He revealed it to us in His Torah and in the words of our sages, telling us what He wants and what He hopes we will achieve?<\/font><\/li>\n<li><font face=\"comic sans ms,sand\" size=\"4\">How much faith do you lack despite the fact that God&#8217;s compassionate&nbsp; word is constantly with us&nbsp; promising us wonderful promises about the future of the world?<\/font><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><font face=\"comic sans ms,sand\" size=\"4\">If you identified any of the above sentences with your own sentiments, then you, like most of us, are afflicted to some extent or another by this familiar syndrome.<\/font><\/p>\n<p><font face=\"comic sans ms,sand\" size=\"4\">Hey, but now, you have just taken the first step towards rectification! You can now accept that and accept the challenge to improve the way you face reality!<\/font><\/p>\n<p><font face=\"comic sans ms,sand\" size=\"4\">You are on the way to being born anew! How much joy is there in that realization?<\/font><\/p>\n<p><font face=\"comic sans ms,sand\" size=\"4\">That said, we have to realize that accepting reality is not an excuse for weakness and doesn&#8217;t mean that you aren&#8217;t prepared for reality to change. But we have to come to terms with it and realize that if we don&#8217;t have the power to change the way things are, then it&#8217;s certainly not worth while getting angry over or feeling guilty aboute. <strong><em>Anger and guilt&nbsp;cannot achieve change<\/em><\/strong>. So, let&#8217;s invest our energies in more productive fields!&nbsp;<\/font><\/p>\n<p><font face=\"comic sans ms,sand\" size=\"4\">Have a successful time working on yourself!<\/font><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'\"><font face=\"arial,helvetica,sans-serif\" size=\"2\">This article was translated from the original Hebrew by Rahel Gordon, an experienced writer and translator. You can view my JobShuk profile <\/font><a href=\"\/gordonitamar\" target=\"_blank\"><font face=\"arial,helvetica,sans-serif\" size=\"2\" color=\"#0066b3\">here<\/font><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This time, we&#8217;re talking about facing reality. We might imagine that, as long as a person isn&#8217;t suffering from a serious psychological illness, the older he gets, the easier it is for him to accept reality and deal with his problems realistically. 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