No Parenting (Seed 5)
In almost all situations, no chinuch is better than bad chinuch (no parenting is better than bad parenting). When in doubt of what to do or how to react, don’t do anything. If the issue is really a problem, it will resurface and you can address it then. If it doesn’t occur again, it wasn’t really an issue.
No Grey Area (Seed 4)
The Chovos HaLevavos says that there is no grey area when dealing with others. There is only black and white. Thus, a child should only be judged by his actions, not by the intention we project on him. Analyze each situation and focus only on what the child actually did. If what he did was not bad, then it was good. We also do not take into consideration the future of a particular behavior. We treat each individual according to what is appropriate NOW, not according to yesterday or tomorrow or five years from now.
Turning Failure into Success (Seed 3)
Each child should see that he has been given the tools to turn failures into successes. A person who has no failings cannot grow. It’s not the mistake that matters but what he does with it. This world is difficult and there are a lot of hardships along the way. These challenges shouldn’t discourage us or make us feel like failures. On the contrary, they should challenge us to be better. It says in Mishlei, “A tzaddik falls seven times and then gets up.” Rav Hutner says it’s not despite the fact that he fell, it’s because of the fact that he fell that made him a tzaddik. Without the failures, he would not have been able to achieve greatness. Failures are not an end in and of themselves; they are a catalyst for success.
Summer Vacation – Freedom From or Freedom To?
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Parenthood
Summer Vacation – Freedom From or Freedom To?by: Shoshana Hayman
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 “There’s nothing to do! I’m bored!” is the battle-cry of children everywhere who are on summer vacation. Yet after weeks of counting the days for school to end, children are at a loss for what to do with their newly … more → |
The Quick Break-Down (Seed 2)
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A child should know the difference between right and wrong
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While your motivating a child to do what’s right, teach him how to use his G-d-given talents and tools — how to put them to good use
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Every child has been given the talent to turn failure into success